Your Babies Emotional Love Cup
Who doesn’t love a classic metaphor? Especially when it’s used to explain something that’s just unexplainable. Something like the fuzzy, warm, goo-goo eyed feeling we call love.
Your baby’s 'love cup' is a metaphor used in reference to their emotions. When your baby’s cup is full, they are satisfied and cheery (YAY!) However, when it’s running on empty, your bub may have a hard time moderating their moods and may be acting out… Soo basically, you're now dealing with a cranky, unsettled, insecure, less delightful version of what was once your little sunshine.
We all know how it feels when our own love cup is running low on love juice… You know the feeling I’m talking about, the one where your irritability level goes from 0 to 100 in less than 1.2 seconds!!!
Well, the same applies to your baby. The only difference is that we, as adults, have the emotional intelligence to (try to) control our reactions.
As the popular saying goes, “you can’t pour from an empty cup”.
Just as you need ‘me time’- a walk in the sunshine, some grown-up time, or time to work on your Game of Thrones fan fiction – your little bundle has emotional needs all of their very own..
A full love cup can set your baby on the path to being emotionally well-adjusted, better behaved and sufficiently equipped to take on the big bad world in the future (yes, it’s THAT important!)
Pam Leo, Author of Connection Parenting, sums it up perfectly: “Either we spend time meeting children’s emotional need by filling their cup with love or we spend time dealing with the behaviours caused by their unmet needs. Either way, we spend time”
So, How Do You Fill Your Baby’s Love Cup?
With connection <3
It’s no secret that balancing life with a baby is… how can I put this mildly?... sheer chaos!
The days become a terrifying montage of nappy changes, feedings, accidentally only putting mascara on one eye, washing, cooking, and the List. Goes. On.
As crazy as life has become, carving out of one-on-one quality time daily to be present and actively enjoy your munchkin is so important.
Here are a few suggestions that will get you started, fill both of your love cups and strengthen your bond
- Physical contact and snuggling
- Stimulate their mind (play peek-a-boo or with toys)
- Maintain eye contact (and pull funny faces)
- Talk or read together
- Go for a walk together and talk about what you see (channelling David Attenborough)
- Share a bath together
Those small moments of intimacy with your baby make them feel loved, safe, seen and appreciated.
A baby who feels loved is more settled and (drum roll please) SLEEPS BETTER! Notice how sometimes if you haven’t had as much bonding time during the day, they tend to not so subtlety DEMAND it at night?
Remember, our children look to us for guidance as to how they see themselves, and based on this, they either develop high or low self-worth.
Bubs long for physical contact, and if you ask me, it’s a win-win situation… I mean, who doesn’t just melt for snuggle time!?
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By Jodi Lee, 2019